My Therapeutic Approach
Three powerful, research-backed methods working together to help you heal from betrayal, rebuild trust, and create a stronger relationship.
Gottman Method
Research-Based Affair Recovery
The Gottman Method is built on 40+ years of research with over 3,000 couples. For affair recovery, I use their specialized Trust Revival Method—a proven three-step process that helps couples move from betrayal to rebuilding.
Research-Backed Results
94% of couples who complete the program report improved relationship satisfaction
Core Principles
Atonement
The unfaithful partner takes full responsibility and shows genuine remorse
Attunement
Both partners learn to understand and respond to each other's emotions
Attachment
Rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy through structured exercises
Key Techniques
What Makes ThisApproach Different
It's not just about combining methods—it's about thoughtful integration based on your unique needs and healing timeline.
Personalized Integration
Rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach, I carefully assess your unique situation and adapt the combination of methods to fit your specific needs and goals.
- ✦Comprehensive initial assessment
- ✦Customized treatment planning
- ✦Flexible method integration
- ✦Regular progress evaluation
Trauma-Informed Care
Every intervention is filtered through an understanding of how betrayal affects the brain and nervous system, ensuring safety and preventing re-traumatization.
- ✦Safety-first approach
- ✦Nervous system awareness
- ✦Paced disclosure process
- ✦Stabilization before exploration
Direct & Compassionate
I combine the directness of RLT with the gentleness of trauma-informed care, helping you face difficult truths while feeling supported and understood.
- ✦Clear, honest feedback
- ✦Compassionate delivery
- ✦Skills-based solutions
- ✦Empathetic guidance
Efficient & Effective
By combining the most effective elements of each approach, we can often achieve meaningful progress more quickly than traditional therapy.
- ✦Structured treatment phases
- ✦Homework between sessions
- ✦Skills practice assignments
- ✦Regular progress tracking
Real Results from Real Couples
These outcomes reflect the effectiveness of this integrated approach with couples committed to the healing process.
Report improved trust
within 6 months
Complete the program
successfully
Stay together
long-term
Recommend approach
to others
* Based on outcomes from couples who completed the full treatment program
How the MethodsWork Together
Each method strengthens the others, creating a comprehensive approach that addresses every aspect of recovery.
Gottman Method
Trust Revival
- ✦Research-backed protocols
- ✦Structured trust rebuilding
- ✦Conflict management
- ✦Emotional attunement
Relational Life Therapy
Intimacy Skills
- ✦Direct communication
- ✦Pattern recognition
- ✦Intimacy building
- ✦Boundary setting
Brain-Based Understanding
Trauma Healing
- ✦Trauma psychoeducation
- ✦Nervous system regulation
- ✦Safety and stabilization
- ✦Attachment repair
Structured + Direct
Gottman's structured approach combined with RLT's direct communication
Skills + Safety
Building intimacy skills within a trauma-informed framework
Research + Trauma
Evidence-based protocols informed by trauma understanding
Three proven approaches working together for comprehensive healing
Treatment Phases
The integration follows a structured timeline, with methods working together at each phase.
Phase 1: Stabilize
2-6 sessions
Create safety and manage the crisis
Session Structure& Expectations
Understanding what to expect helps you get the most from our work together.
Session Length & Frequency
Optimized timing for meaningful progress
- •60-minute sessions (not 50 minutes)
- •Weekly sessions initially
- •Biweekly as progress stabilizes
- •Monthly maintenance sessions
In-Session Structure
Balanced approach to processing and skill-building
- •Check-in and homework review (10 min)
- •Skill-building or processing (35 min)
- •Integration and homework assignment (15 min)
- •Regular progress assessment
Between Sessions
Where real change happens in daily life
- •Structured homework assignments
- •Communication exercises
- •Individual reflection time
- •Progress tracking tools
Progress Milestones
Clear markers of healing and growth
- •Weekly check-ins on goals
- •Monthly comprehensive reviews
- •Quarterly relationship assessments
- •Graduation planning sessions
Ready to begin this structured approach to healing?
Schedule Your First SessionYour HealingTimeline
Recovery follows a predictable path. While every couple is unique, this timeline shows the typical journey from crisis to healing.
Phase 1: Stabilize
Crisis Management & Safety
Focus on immediate safety, emotional regulation, and understanding what happened.
Phase Goals
Expected Outcomes
Methods Used in This Phase
Brain-based understanding
Trauma responses, nervous system regulation
RLT boundaries
Safety agreements, communication guidelines
Gottman assessment
Relationship evaluation, crisis triage
Key Milestones
These are typical markers of progress most couples experience on their healing journey.
Crisis stabilized
Immediate safety established
Disclosure completed
Full understanding of betrayal
Skills developing
New communication patterns emerging
Trust rebuilding
Consistent trustworthy behavior
Intimacy returning
Emotional and physical reconnection
New relationship
Stronger than before
Important to Remember:
Every couple's timeline is unique. Some move faster, others need more time. What matters most is your commitment to the process and willingness to do the work. I'll adjust our approach based on your specific needs and progress.
Ready to experience this approach?
See how these methods can work together in your unique situation.
Begin Your Healing