Affair Recovery Therapy in San Diego — Rebuild Trust and Feel Secure Again
When infidelity shakes your world, it feels impossible to move forward. With the right guidance, you can rebuild trust, find calm, and create a relationship that's stronger than before.
"The journey forward begins with a single step"
Professional Highlights
Meet Jordan Zipkin, LMFT
A trusted local expert who happens to be really good at what he does
For over 15 years, I've had the privilege of helping San Diego couples navigate their most challenging moments. My approach balances genuine care with proven expertise—informed by both professional training and personal experience with the pain of betrayal and the journey of healing.
I believe couples need more than talk therapy—they need evidence-based tools and practical strategies that actually work. That's why I integrate the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy, and trauma-informed approaches.
I understand what you're going through because I've been there myself. That personal understanding, combined with specialized training, has helped hundreds of couples rebuild trust and create stronger relationships than they had before.
My Carmel Valley office provides a safe, comfortable space, conveniently located near I-5 and accessible from throughout San Diego County.
I understand the pain you're experiencing.
Whether you've just discovered the betrayal or you're months into processing this trauma, you're likely experiencing a whirlwind of emotions. The life you built together in San Diego — from weekend trips to La Jolla Cove to quiet evenings in Balboa Park — suddenly feels shattered.
The hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, and waves of grief you're experiencing are normal trauma responses. Your nervous system is working overtime to protect you. Understanding these reactions as biological, not personal failures, is the first step toward healing.
Since 2008, I've helped hundreds of San Diego couples navigate this journey — from military families facing deployment-related infidelity to professionals managing the fallout from workplace affairs. My experience has shown me that with the right approach, couples can not only recover but create relationships stronger than before.
You don't have to face this alone.
Why San Diego couples choose my practice:
- •Direct, compassionate guidance without judgment
- •Evidence-based strategies from Gottman Method and Relational Life Therapy
- •Understanding of San Diego's unique challenges (military deployments, tech industry demands)
- •Practical homework designed for busy professional schedules
- •Clear treatment plans with measurable progress milestones
Your Journey toRecovery
Every couple's path is unique, but the process follows a proven framework designed to guide you from crisis to connection.
Stabilize
Create safety and contain the crisis. We'll establish boundaries, manage immediate emotions, and help you both feel grounded enough to begin the work.
Structure
Understand what happened and why. Through guided conversations, we'll explore the factors that led to the affair and begin processing the impact on both partners.
Rebuild
Create a new relationship together. Using proven techniques, we'll help you rebuild trust, deepen intimacy, and create a stronger bond than you had before.
Ready to take the first step on your journey?
Begin Your Recovery JourneyEvidence-Based MethodsThat Work
I combine three powerful approaches to give you the best chance at healing and rebuilding.
Gottman Method
Research-based approach that helps couples build trust, manage conflict, and create shared meaning. Proven effective for affair recovery with specific protocols for rebuilding after betrayal.
- ✦Trust Revival Method
- ✦Conflict management skills
- ✦Emotional attunement
- ✦Creating shared meaning
Relational Life Therapy
Direct, skills-based approach that addresses the root causes of disconnection. RLT helps partners move from destructive patterns to genuine intimacy and passion.
- ✦Identifying relationship patterns
- ✦Developing intimacy skills
- ✦Healing childhood wounds
- ✦Creating passionate marriage
Brain-Based Understanding
Understanding how betrayal impacts the brain helps normalize your experience and provides a roadmap for healing. We'll explore trauma responses and nervous system regulation.
- ✦Trauma psychoeducation
- ✦Nervous system regulation
- ✦Attachment repair
- ✦Mindfulness practices
Curious about how these methods work together in your unique situation?
Begin Your HealingStories ofHope & Healing
Real couples who have walked this path and found their way back to each other.
"Jordan gave us the roadmap we desperately needed. We're not just surviving—we're closer than ever."
M.S.
Couples Client
Ready to begin healing?
The first step is often the hardest. I'm here to make it easier.
Begin Your HealingCommon Questions
You probably have many questions right now. Here are some I hear most often.
Is staying together the right choice after an affair?
Only you can decide. My role is to give you the clarity, skills, and structure you need to make that choice with confidence.
Should I ask every detail about the affair?
No. Reliving graphic details only adds pain. What helps is understanding why it happened and how your partner will ensure it doesn't happen again.
Can trust really be rebuilt?
Yes. It feels impossible now, but with honesty, patience, and guided support, many couples rebuild—and even grow stronger.